People say that children are always learning, even when you aren’t necessarily teaching and I agree with that. As a kid, I watched my parents’ relationship and saw something that was pure, true, and invincible.
My parents have been married 32 years. In that time, they have been through A LOT. While sure every relationships has its ups and downs, but I assure you my parents have been through a lot more.
I see their love in the sweetest yet subtle ways, how my dad would always go to my mom’s school to put up her word wall super straight and how my momma is always making sure dad makes his doctor’s appointments. How my dad insists I wait in a 20 minute line for my mother’s coffee, because it’s for my mom or how my mom goes out of her way to always make sure to call my (paternal) grandparents to see how they are doing.
They may not show their love in the conventional way, but to me their love was so prevalent in my eyes. There’s honestly nothing they wouldn’t do for each other. Growing up, my mom and dad always referred to themselves as a team, team Saucedo. They truly are. Where one is weak, the other is strong. Together they are unstoppable.
I was lucky, my parent’s never had these big blow outs. It’s not that they didn’t disagree, because they do. But they never got to the point where either of them were disrespectful to each other. That’s the thing, they have a lot of respect for each other.
My dad was the primary decision maker. But if mom was felt strongly about something, my dad followed her instinct. If there was something that she really wanted to get done, he made sure it did. They respect each other’s opinion.
I’ve asked my mom; what’s the big secret. How have they managed to say married in a world where divorce is a new constant. Her answer was: they’ve always have remained best friends. She says she doesn’t remember a time where their friendship stopped and their relationship began. It just evolved naturally.
Even through their darkest of times, their friendship is what carried them through. My parents’ relationship is the one thing on this earth that is absolutely invincible. It’s one of the few truths that I can always rely on, my parents’ love.
Happy anniversary, mom and dad! I love you.