An Open Letter to My 15-year-old Self

Hi you!

Er, well, Me. Okay, let’s talk.

Life is truly a wild ride. There will be ups and downs, but here’s maybe some things that will make for a little less of a bumpy ride.

The first and most important thing is, you need to discover your value. Find out that your worth is not based on anyone’s opinion of you. You are so worth being loved. Look at all the things that makes you a pretty rad chick and stick with it. Embrace your “you”ness. Love yourself in every aspect, that way when people try to shake you they won’t.

High school is filled with meaningless thoughts, fights, and opinions. Think of your life in five years if your problem won’t matter then, don’t worry about it. It’s harder than it sounds, but it’s really worth it if you can swing it. It will save you a bunch of stress. Honestly, just avoid the drama queens as much as possible. They’ll only bring you down.

In the end you’ll never please everyone, you can spend your whole life trying or you can just enjoy it despite of other’s opinions. Mr. Feeny on Boy Meets World says “If you let people’s perception of you dictate your behavior, you will never grow as a person. But if you leave yourself open to experience, despite what others think, then you will learn and grow.” Never let other people dictate your happiness. Do what makes your heart smile.

People will leave you. People that you think are supposed to love you. People that say you mean the world to them. They will leave. You won’t see it coming, you won’t know why. It will hurt.  Know one thing, it is not your fault. People just leave. It’s life. It’s not fair, but it is life.

Love everyone. There’s always something beautiful to be found in someone. It may be hard to find, but I promise it’s there. Like Wela would say, “she’s sweet in her own nasty little way.” When people tell you bad things about someone keep it in mind, but don’t let it stop you from loving them. People are different around different people. Give second chances, third chances, fourth chances. People change.

Just be careful. Guard your heart. It’s one of the most precious things you’ll ever have.

Life is pleasantly filled with surprises, so don’t fret when things don’t go as planned. It will all turn out in time.

yours truly,


well, you. er, well, you get the point!

15 year old Kristan


To the readers- I know past me will never get to see this, but maybe if you know a girl (or even guy) who could use it, pass this along to them. I wish I someone told me these things.



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